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Originally Posted by artemis-within
my dear t: i just had a sudden and sad feeling that velvet has passed away. i am so very sorry if it is true. i wonder if you will tell me. you told me last weekend that she was not doing too well and she slept the whole time I was there. i wish i had been more sensitive to you and not so caught up in that intense-whatever-it-was within myself. i know you're supposed to be able to take care of yourself. but why could i not have had a little human compassion for you?! what kind of a monster am i? i am sorry t.
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I know you know this, but your T is being a good T by not focusing on her issues and you have no reason to feel guilty for not providing support.
A couple of months ago my T had to rearrange due to a funeral. It was someone close, I could tell. We focused on what missing a session meant to me, not on his sadness. It was ok because I know he can take care of himself.
It's a weird relationship in the grand scheme of things, but that imbalance is exactly why therapy is helpful.
Sorry for rambling on, but I wanted to say you're not a monster!