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Old May 06, 2016, 12:11 PM
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Originally Posted by granite1 View Post
the idea that she is there for me is terrifying . i could never allow myself to feel that . i dont want to . i will never feel like i am anything but a job to her and im ok with that .i will never fall into that trap.it could be hugely harmful for me to think anything else . i would never depend on her or be that close to her (
Because being close to her could make you vulnerable & she could hurt you? This makes sense to me. Your mother was supposed to take care of you but she hurt you. (And this had everything to do with her problems & wasn't about you. You didn't deserve her terrible treatment).
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