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Originally Posted by sophiesmom
I am scratching my head at all this...
I am not a simpleton by any means, and I don't want to trivialize what you feel. But.
You're really over analyzing yourself, her, and your relationship. Just my own opinion.
Why not let go of all of that and simply love her and don't question why she's doing what she's doing and what effect it has on you?
When you fall in love with someone, you fall in love with all of them, not parts of them.
I don't think that what you're doing is good for you or your relationship. And frankly it shouldn't be this much work.
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Totally agree with you. I am over analyzing. You are right, I need to let go and simply love.
Like I said I've been inside my head a lot lately and thusly over indulging my fears which turn into projections. Which turns into judgement. As I surrender to all this, my pain and suffering melts away.
I feel like I am presently breaking an old co-dependent story. I came on this forum to complain to judge and label her. My ego was bruised and I wanted to prove I was "right." I got wonderful support from everyone here. I felt protected. Thank you all so much for helping me!
This created a space for me and allowed me to see things in a different perspective. Basically I see a lot of my old self in this woman AND I am learning about myself and growing. What's not to like? As long as i do not play the blame game. I continue to grow.
Simply put, I choose to love her.