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Old May 06, 2016, 03:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Echos Myron View Post
I went through similar feelings to you with T1. He would actually become defensive when I tried to talk to him about feeling abandoned and rejected and we ended up in a pattern of rupture and repair.
I left when I realised that the repeated pain I was going through was not therapeutic and any therapeutic value to the relationship was lost. I found it too hard just to leave though, so I took a 'break' for four months and consulted another (much better) therapist about my feelings toward T1 then after 4 months I realised I was making better progress with T2, so I contacted T1 to terminate.
I terminated because of similar feelings after 5+ years, on the couch 3-4 times a week. I or we couldn't resolve my longings. But we left on good terms.

We stay in touch, occasionally, because my sister, Mom, and Dad all died within 7 months.
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