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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
If you re-read my post, you'll see I used the term "magically change"...
I didn't say people never change, or cease to change after a certain age.
My apologies if I was unclear, but what I meant is without provocation.
Nothing you've said or done has inspired or provoked her to change her behaviour, she describes her behaviour as simply being human, thus I don't see her changing of her own volition.
You said it yourself when describing your own changes, you were provoked. Even I myself, I was drastically provoked into changing my maladaptive behaviors into healthier ones.
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That's the thing. i think she is in the midst of a transformation. The co in me wants to be like. "I will help to fix her! Then all will be good." Lol, old ways sometimes die a long death.
That type of thinking brought me here in the first place. Deep breath, wanting to save people has been a huge part of my life story. When I was down in the dumps as an adolescent I had always wished someone would have just guided me or clued me in. So I tried to save people in an effort to save myself. Lol, no one wants to be saved or can be for that matter. Oops!
Bottom line an old story I played over and over again. At 51 I am done with it. it no longer serves me.
I do see effort in other areas. And an overall transformation. So there is no doubt in my mind that she grows spiritually. I guess it's her process and I simply don't want to be demanding and require her to deal with my issues. Sure I could cut bait and dump her, blame her and heck, maybe I would even be "right."
Instead I've chosen to look inward. And let's face it. I've got work to do!
So for now. I choose to work on myself.
We've agreed to make our partnership a spiritual practice. In this moment, I feel very good about it.
ps. No need to say you are sorry. "I'm sorry" Lol if I came off combative.