Hi 26, sorry to hear of your troubles. Last summer, I split with someone, after about six years together. I used the opportunity to do some soul searching and deep, private emoting. The relationship wasn't very substantive to begin with. It had been depleting me for a long time, and allowing me to stay in a holding pattern of negativity about myself and him. I realize that one of the reasons we failed was because I was getting better. I was keeping a focus on myself and doing what I needed to do and his psychic whining was holding me back. He wanted it the sick way and could not make the adjustment. I bet this happens to a lot of people. I find that oftentimes, for many people, when they are fired, evicted, dumped, etc, it is usually for the best, and a period of improvement in their lives usually follows. It sure did for me. Being alone after you have been with someone can be incredibly cathartic and eye opening.