It's not quite the same but in a conversation with middle T who I only saw for 4 sessions we talked about our relationship. Well, I say talked, we used stones and moved them etc. After a bit of toing and froing she moved hers next to mine and said "I would like to be there, next to you, how does that feel?" I said "unknown", followed by silence then " why?"

I have to commend her for her honesty because the reasons were all self satisfaction based. I was honestly expecting something along the lines of "because I want to help you because you deserve to be happy, because you are worthwhile, because I think I can help you be who you want to be" or anything like that. I was not expecting her response but to be fair to her I don't think she was expecting my question either!!

One of the reasons I didn't feel like it would work between us.