Radio, I think you're perfectly correct. We tend to gravitate towards what we learned as kids, what we think is "normal" and familiar.
The first time I married my "grandmother"; a controlling, abusing freak. The second time, I married my dad; passive agressive and emotionally unavailable. It was time to give up trying for me.
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Psalm 119:105 Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.