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Originally Posted by Ratchet
To me the relationship is more like a cake. The aspects of the relationship are represented by the ingredients, and while you can still make the cake if you leave an ingredient out, the cake isn't quite right. Depending on the ingredient left out the cake may taste a little funny, it may be too soggy, or it may just crumble altogether.
That's about as close as I can come to explaining my situation - hope it helps anyone who was curious.
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I really like this analogy, Ratchet. For both of us, the 'cake' isn't all there. There's an important ingredient missing. And there's nothing we can do about it. We stay or we leave: that's the only choice that we have. But there's little or nothing that we can do to change our partners.
It will be three years since 'coming out' in a few days. And I am feeling sad that nothing has changed, but encouraged that I am, slowly, sticking the pieces of myself together. Feeling, understanding that this is not my 'fault'. I didn't cause this. I am not inadequate and a failure...