Im sorry but we can not tell you whether what you went through is abuse or not. Im not trying to deflect how it made you feel, just stating a fact. you see what is considered abuse is relative to ones own location and the laws in your own location. a persons culture and religion also dictates what is and isnt abuse for someone...

let me give you an example here in america it is considered abuse if a parent neglects their child health issues but it is not abuse if an american is of a religion that does not believe in obtaining health care outside of that religious community.

it is so easy for me as an american to see posts like you have wrote and just jump to the conclusion that yea this is abuse but then i have to temper that jumping to conclusion by remembering your profile says you are not in america and you may not be of the same culture or religion as I am. it may very well be that in your location\culture or religion and what have you where you are, that this is not abuse, it may very well be just a grandmother being a grandmother by your locations standards.

my suggestion is if this continues to bother you contact your or a treatment provider (doctor, therapist psychiatrist) or your local law inforcement program, any of them will be able to tell you whether what you went through is abuse and why. they can also help you get into therapy and what have you so that you can better understand the laws and such and how you are feeling, and deal with how this situation has made you feel.