From a friendship probably yes you are expecting to much, but if I'm understanding right you are talking about your boyfriend? Correct? If you 2 are committed then I say no you are only asking for the kind of openness and honesty that you are willing to give. That is fair. Doesn't mean he is able to express himself in a perfect mirrored image of your way of communicating, but u should at least feel like in his own language he is giving you as much and you should feel a sense of truth openness and security.