You are a 41 year-old man in the hot tub with women who have 'friend zoned' you. This woman is leading you on texting you from bed late at night and flirting, but puts the stops on it and gets indignant about it.

You should focus on why the women have friend zoned you. Move on to new ones who are romantic possibilities. Don't feel bad about anything you said. If you were raised to feel so ashamed about being sexual, work on getting over that with the therapist.