Hello,

Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Apologies if this is long to read.

My wife left a little over 2 years ago. She swore up and down it was just a separation for reasons similar to a nervous breakdown but then went off to live the life of a single woman and never looked back. I waited for 2 years (regretting it at the moment) and finally decided that it was time to end this with divorce.

At that point I had also begun seeing someone (long distance). It was nice, I could almost see myself having a long term future with her.

It was at this point my ex wife poops in and tells me everything I'd wanted to hear for the past 2 years. It caused a lot of stress, cost me the relationship with the new woman.

After some back and forth with the ex wife, some of it nasty, she seemed to have gotten the hint until this morning. Again, she sends texts telling me she wants to work on repairing the marriage.

I don't know how much of this is normal. Every time she approaches me, it fills me with anxiety. I can't concentrate on anything and that's why it ruined things with the new woman.

At the same time, even though I don't have romantic feelings for the ex, I can't help thinking of doing it. Even though I have tons of resentment against her, my kids would stop going back and forth.

I wonder if these scenarios ever end in a positive way. Can I even do this? I still mourn the loss of the new woman who really is a great person.