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Originally Posted by oldlife_disrupted
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At the same time, even though I don't have romantic feelings for the ex, I can't help thinking of doing it. Even though I have tons of resentment against her, my kids would stop going back and forth.
I wonder if these scenarios ever end in a positive way. Can I even do this? I still mourn the loss of the new woman who really is a great person.
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Based on the bold parts of your post, I have to go with no, an all resounding no
Your motivation for reconciliation seems more out of loneliness, convenience and nostalgia.
Not any actual desire to BE WITH your ex wife.
Furthermore, you are certainly not over the great LD lady you speak of, which makes your ex a possible rebound as well. A rebound you already resent for wasting two years of your life. Spending time with someone you resent usually makes you resent them more, not less....
Its not that these scenarios never work, but BOTH parties have to WANT to be together BADLY, and even then, its an uphill battle trying to rebuild and regain trust.
I just don't see the point in putting in all that effort for someone you don't even want to be with.