He took vows as I said in the other thread. Better for worse, sickness and in health. Cheating is a sin. I did ask you if you thought he could be and you were adamant he wasn't. Cashart don't be afraid of being a single mom. I left an abusive alcoholic I didn't have a job my son was 13. I moved in with my grandmother. You may need to downsize. Whatever it takes to survive. Maybe he's bluffing about the divorce. Call him on it. Tell him go ahead. You will be fine and capable of taking care of your children. Go see a realtor bring the business card home leave it for him to see. Whatever you're comfortable with. But my love if he truly wants out there is nothing that will stop him. You're hurting understandably. Pride heart us bipolars process things slower. Crazy Hitch can tell you her horror story. May give you insight. Thinking about you. Take care of yourself.