I know i'm coming late to this thread, but I can relate... I was actually hospitalized several times for it (because it was really severe). I'm trying to move away from it, but it's difficult. It's very much related to csa for me. That makes it really difficult to get help from emergency providers, so I'm trying to keep it in check.

T and I try to talk about it as needed, though even now is difficult to bring up with her. She tries to minimize the shame around it for me. We talk about it to keep tabs on it. If it gets bad again, we talk about it and I try to get in to see my gyn. They have permission to talk to each other about it if necessary...

I hope you are able to keep talking to t about it. Did I read correctly that it's because of sa from your husband? I hope you are able to find safety soon...