All of you are the best. Thank you so much for all the good advise. Why this concerns me so much is I don't want are unhappiness affecting our 4 year old. I'm afraid that she can tell that all's not right on the home front, but doesn't know why. I'm trying very hard to be patient with my husband. I know it had to be a hard blow on his pride and his self estem. It took me by surprise as well but not in any means that it did him. I like the therapy for me idea. That maybe a way to go about it. I have also thought of calling his old recruiter and seeing if he has any helpful ideas. What do you all think of that?