I know I wanted a T who would really interact with me, working creatively and using touch when trust had built up, it is a long story but I feel it is neceasary so needed to make sure they were comfortable with it. I also wanted to continue being allowed to email etc. In the UK a lot of Ts offer free or reduced cost 'consultation sessions' which helps but it is still bad when you get there having asked the above and they say they don't work in that way. Kind of pointless and upsetting. My T was just there for me, offering me encouragement and listening to me, not pushing me if I said that they didn't feel right. She recommended one and came with me because it was the first one but it didn't work out, we both realised it wasn't right while we were there. We were supposed to only see each other for another 6 sessions back in Feb but she has said there is no rush, it needs to be right. I am glad to have found the lady I am working with now. Hope it helps.