I don't think the whole therapy set up creates obsessions and unhealthy attachments. I don't think attachment is inevitable. Some therapists suck as they force dependence but not everyone. Mine doesn't and neither do many other we are reading on here.

I see that your t doesn't foster attachment but you still feel very attached. I wonder if it is because some things are missing in your life and maybe he can help you

I also think that if people tend to get attached and develop obsessive transference especially of sexual nature, then it might be a good idea to try different gender t. Like if one always falls in love with females t then go see male t etc I know that I had tendency in my life to get obsessive thoughts about males so it was important for me to see female t. One kind of needs to know themselves and what triggers them. I personally would go see female t under the circumstances

Also from what I am reading on here people often develop strong attachments to t when they are missing something outside of therapy like when they are lonely etc I'd like to think that therapy would be helpful to find fulfilling things outside of therapy. Therapists cannot be our lovers or friends or parents, they can't substitute any of it. They might be able to ( if they are good) help clients to find all that outside of therapy room.

I don't know what you should do. But I see two options. Tell him the truth and see if he can help sort it out and find happiness outside of his office. Or quit and see a different t. Then eventually you'll forget about this one and can work on other things in therapy. I am not sure what's best

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