The marriage didn't start going bad a week ago, and it isn't all because of some other woman - whether he is cheating or not. I divorced my first husband (of 10 years) 16 years ago, and I am still figuring out what I did wrong. I thought it was all him, it wasn't. And don't tell your children it is all Daddy's fault.

The two of you need to agree to certain behaviors in front of the kids. Certain lines you won't cross. You want to raise them, does he? Try to find middle ground and meet half way. Not because you believe the marriage will be over, but because if there is any chance for any happiness in future you need to work together and be respectful of each other. Divorce turns every emotion into a battle, and every word can become a knife. Sheathe your blade. In trying to use everyone you can to force your husband into submission you are (in his mind) probably disrespecting everything he has asked you over the past week. Just space, time and room to think. Instead you have swooped to control and smother. Nothing is over until it is over. Back off and make your home a sanctuary, not a battle ground. One day can become two, then three.

The divorce process brings out the worst in people. Try to be a good person, but also remember, your children need both of you and neither one of you are due them, or own them.