Is this custody agreement you agree to because it covers when he is not working? Because he has all weekends off in a Mon-Fri work week, and you will eventually want to do something on a weekend with some friends. And if it only covers says he is working, how is that fair to the kids, will they be at daycare?

He went to the movies last night.... with a buddy????? I say bull. A male doesn't take another guy to a movie when his life is falling apart. It sounds like he had a date. Put a private eye on the credit card, and get a lawyer.

FYI - you are also miserable at this time. Don't just think about his needs, and agree to his terms. It is really hard to start thinking about your needs after 10 years with someone, I call it mushrooms and onions. Because I hate mushrooms and like onions. My husband of 10 years liked mushrooms and hated onions. So I put mushrooms in everything and didn't use onions. After I was separated and was grocery shopping - I put mushrooms in my cart and froze. I looked at everything in my cart - they were HIS favorites. Not things I liked. I had to relearn the simpliest things. I think old fashioned woman like me set aside who they are and become something for the other person. Relearning who I was and who I want to be took years. Start being your own best friend and try to find yourself inside and ask what you want. Don't give into anything and miss the chance to stand up for future you.

And I think someone needs to find out who this other woman is. Someone needs to be talking to her about how she is harming things right now.