I certainly never said all therapy ends in heartbreak. I'm just asking questions. I find it shocking how rarely the transference hypothesis is challenged. It's helpful for me to scrutinize this stuff, and I hope that it helps others who are getting nothing but the standard urgings and pep talks -- it's normal, trust your therapist, tell your therapist about your feelings, you gotta work through it. Seems like this stuff is so widely repeated and so entrenched that clients are practically hypnotized. I would counter that there is very little that is normal about developing overpowering feelings for a paid professional who by definition cannot and will never return said feelings. The assumption that this will somehow be parlayed into a healing experience, when seen objectively, looks pretty sketchy IMO.