Okie,

You do NOT have to put up with her disrespect. She is a 22 year old ADULT. Legally I don't suppose you have any obligation to her after the age of 18.

When my daughter turned 18 she got very very abusive to me and refused to show even the base level of respect. So, I shared with her the minimum ground rules for living in my home. I then shared with her that she had a decision to make.

She decided to leave. It was extremely difficult for both of us. And our relationship is still in transition. BUT. I have drawn a boundary of respect and I am okay with how it turned out. I cannot be treated that way in my own home. I deserve better. And she should not be able to get away with that type of treatment of her mother. She learned it from her Dad. I took the first step in breaking the cycle of letting those I love treat me like garbage.

There is a line in the sand, Okie. Only you can decide what the line is for you. But make a decision and stand by it. Hold strong and accept only mutual respect in ALL relationships.

If she continues to be a jerk, I would show her the door. Decide what reasonable is for you and ACT ON IT.

Goodluck,

Juli