I've been with my husband for 13 years and was diagnosed bipolar during that time. Before that I thought I had depression and I told people up front. I worry more about people hearing things from others. I prefer they hear it from me so I'm pretty upfront. I'm probably too upfront. It's bitten me in the arse on more than 1 occasion. I don't think there is a right or wrong to this. It's more about how YOU feel about it that matters. (((Hugs)))