Oh, wow. It sounds like your BF has a nasty case of OCD. I've been married to a man for 30+ years, he has OCD. I feel like his caregiver, his therapist, and so on. An exhausting role. My husband was never able to create a normal life for me and our children. Just this past month his OCD and panic attacks have really been bothering him...he's a mess, his life is a mess pretty much. OCD is a hell to live with, let me tell you.