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Old May 10, 2016, 03:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Petra5ed View Post
I think there is a point, yes, but therapy may not be the only route and it might not be for everyone. IMHO when you have abuse as a child you become overwhelmed with defense mechanisms and generally stop connecting with others at the same level as a "normal" person would. Being more closed means we go inside and bury stuff which is liable to erupt later when triggered. For example, I used to be triggered into crying by certain things and it has led to public embarrassment a few times. Just imagine a shelter dog opposed to a dog raised in a home from a puppy. The shelter dog is just never quite the same.

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The shelter dog analogy is perfect. We have one at home, and it *HAS* taken a lot of work to get her to trust us, to not cower with sudden movements, etc. Men with white hair used to trigger her anxiety big-time.

I understand the public embarrassment re: crying, by the way. Wish I could go back in time and fix a few, ugh.