GAGypsy,
You can start today to reconnect with your daughter. Little things make a difference...email or send a letter or card for no reason other than to tell her you are thinking about her. You have been through a tough time, but you can reconnect with her. Don't let anxiety trick you into believing this is who you are and don't let how you feel keep you from reconnecting. You are a good person doing the best you can through hard times.