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Originally Posted by BastetsMuse
Don't read animosity where amazement is indicated. I don't feel anything negative to you or about you; I'm just amazed that you haven't been able to communicate this stuff to your spouse on your own and your dad felt he had to step in. I'm sure it's nice to have family supporting you, but I'm old school in that marital issues ought to be dealt with between the spouses and keep parents out of it.... feels like you're ganging up on your spouse. Just my opinion - for that about about five bucks you can buy a coffee. And I didn't expect my opinion to be liked; on this board it seems that if you can't be agreeable with someone, no matter what, saying nothing is the best thing - which I will do regarding your marital issues from now on, even though I empathise with your troubles.
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When I start showing up at family gatherings consistently without my husband, questions start. Plus, my oldest daughter starts talking about how her mom doesn't get off of the couch, calling out insults that come straight out of my husbands mouth. Or, when I can't stop crying over my husband's harsh words or wanting a divorce. It is obvious. I don't think I'm ganging up on my spouse. If I am, I don't feel badly for him. He is cruel to me and I am glad someone other than me (he thinks I'm a joke because I have been his stomping ground from a while now) challenged his behavior. The reason I read animosity in your post is because you said "and I didn't depend on daddy to do it for me." That sounded very condescending. I am not a child; I don't depend on "daddy" to do everything but, when he decides that he isn't going to tolerate meanness to me? I will gladly accept the title of his baby girl.
I also have no ill will toward you; I felt defensive due to your words. Please comment freely.