I don't think asking for advise is the problem. I think we need to be very careful when taking any advise from anyone. I'm a pretty susceptible person in general. If others tell me I should do something, I always fear they are right. In the end, if I take the advise of others, I've regretted it totally. Especially when it comes to relationships. Advise can be well meaning and still be terrible advise. Whatever a person chooses, it should usually (not always) be what is in the heart and mind of the person, not their friend.

It sounds like you made a good decision for yourself and husband. Your situation sounds difficult but sounds like you are taking things in stride and growing as a person. That is good. (((Hugs)))