Well that may be, we were hurt more by females than males-- though males did quite a bit to me also.

In my case-- not sure if this is true for you- I was not nurtured from the day I was born all the way to the day my parents left me and moved 700 miles away, when I was 19. The T. I was seeing for almost three years helped me to realize that I was raised similar-- (however, even the average boy gets some nurturing) to boys- just that I was additionally neglected and traumatized.

Since I was raised without "soft-nurturing", I've grown to be private and not very emotional- at least not outwardly anyway..... such traits ARE generally accepted in males but not in females.
I've worked really hard to try and be more "female" in this regard--- I firmly believe that one can learn to be "softer" if they really try hard enough. I don't believe this is "gender" specific..... I think it is environmental...... ... but then.... that's another whole subject, so I'll stop here since I'm off topic-- --> have always wanted to use that smilie.

Fuzzy-

mandy