Lexicon-I joined this forum because I have very similar problems. I too was raped, and I've never had a problem with sex like I do now. And it makes no sense, because I've been in love with my boyfriend since I was a freshman in high school when we first dated. (I'm now almost 26) We've been back together for a year now, and at first there were no problems. Now--I hardly ever want sex. I don't really freak out if we're able to get things started, but I find it so hard to feel intimate with him. I have no issues when we hug or cuddle, but anything else, I just don't want it. A few times I've gotten upset by memories, but for the most part, it's just that the want isn't there. I don't know how to get passed it!

I don't know what your relationship is like, but is he supportive? Does he understand? Talking about it with him may help. I know when I feel like my boyfriend understands, it's easier for me to warm up to him. I haven't gotten counceling, therapists scare me. I don't really have any advice to give....but I wanted to let you know that someone out here has similar issues, and that I understand! When I found a woman on yahoo that understood, I felt so much better. Feel free to send a message anytime! I hope we figure out what to do!