Like you said.....it will never go away even if you prove that you are right. It doesn't change what you went through. It helps to talk & to warn others but proving it in a court of law is a whole other thing.

The home care person that I caught abusing my mother & who caused trauma to my mother at the end of her life & to me while trying to protect my mom which at the time I didn't understand what was really happening......I took it to the police & the sad thing was that I was too good at protecting my mom & I stopped everything from happening that would have nailed her in a court of law. She had written checks on my mom's account which I stopped payment on & she knew I did so never cashed the checks...only if the checks had been cashed could the courts have found her guilty. All the other things she did were not something that could be proved one way or the other & when people steal credit cards & use them, no one bothers with prosecuting them which she also did......but the OD's & the stealing of my mom's jewelry were all things that couldn't be proven without evidence.

I had to figure out another way of dealing with the trauma as I couldn't even go back at the hospital for what they did in letting that person impersonate herself as the home care person in the first place.

Things are difficult to prove legally because they need solid evidence.....which we would want if someone was accusing us of doing something also.....we wouldn't want it to be that easy without having the solid evidence. Makes it harder on us to prove but it's the best system overall.