When I started dating my husband, he would ask "When is the other shoe going to drop? You are so perfect, when is something bad going to happen and this all falls apart?" I'd just giggle 'aw shucks' and say "What makes you think something ever has to go wrong?"

Well, something did go wrong. It started when I was pregnant with our first child and got worse, ruining our marriage. We've been living a nightmare because of it. Two 'perfect' people found some dynamic that ruined our love.

Is that just the nature of relationships? Is it inevitable that two people will find some issue that will drive them apart, and it is just a question of how long?

He accused me of finding his Achilles heel and making his flaw the one thing I used to push him away. He accused me of having BPD and said that is the cause why I pushed him away-- because his neglect and fear of initiating sex with me and inability to turn me on-- I turned into such a trigger that I go off the deep end with emotion that turned into self-medicating overdosing and, for a while, even self-harm (hitting myself).

Is it always something?