Hi Skeezyks. Thank you for your kind words and empathy. The 'compassionate abiding' technique sounds very interesting and I will definitely give that a try.

I've also been trying to get some perspective and doing a bit of 'standing in the others shoes' and imagining what the other side saw and if I were that person I wouldn't be thinking 'oh his marriage is ending and family being split apart and he's crying, what a wimp'.
I would be feeling sad for the guy and empathic, so that makes me feel better too.