I agree very much that nothing or no one is 'perfect', but nor do they have to be in order to have a happy relationship.

I think it's natural for relationships to have conflicts, disagreements and challenges, that's life. If we didn't encounter these challenges it would indicate we are avoiding them, which is no good because that can build resentment. It's a case of working at it, communicating effectively, nurturing your relationship. Both people have to want this.

My experience is that a period of conflict can lead to better communication, in fact it can be a positive thing - it has lead me to look at my own behaviour and patterns, not easy but worth it in the long run IMO.

Sorry you are struggling now Tish, and hope things will improve for you both.