I do think the way a T approaches SH can affect how much we do it. I had one T who was very comfortable with handling it and talking about it, but he didn't make any demands on me to stop. So I did as much as I wanted. Another T later on made me sign a safety contract. And I was so worried she would drop me if I SH'd, that I didn't and haven't SH'd in 10 months and 13 days. I have actually moved and am trying to find a new T, so I guess I could go ahead and SH now, but I've learned to deal with those triggers in different ways now.

So I think a T's attitude and how they handle SH can make a HUGE difference. My T that helped me stop, she was really good at being a T and I wanted to stay with her badly so I kept to the contract. So I think whether or not you respect your T enough can have some play in it as well.

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