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Old May 13, 2016, 11:37 AM
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Originally Posted by QuietMind View Post
Wow, I am so angry at your T. If this is a pattern of hers, she is treating you terribly!

I really regret encouraging you to go now because she treated you so badly.
Please don't regret it because I had a choice and I chose to go. I am glad that I did go and say what I had to say, she didn't acknowledge any of it or take responsibility but I don't know why I expected her to.

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Originally Posted by Echos Myron View Post
I'm sorry you haven't been able to walk away from this abusive relationship yet mona. Again, I would urge you to consider the benefit a competent T would have on your learning. I have learnt so much from my T because he models a healthy therapy relationship and good boundaries which I will carry with me when I become a practitioner.

This says it all:

She is a despicable manipulative abuser. I don't often give direct advice on PC, but please don't do whatever it is she wants you to do. Creating a dual relationship on top of everything else will be great for her, but extremely harmful for you. And when it ends up hurting you/going wrong, who do you think she will blame?
The gall of the woman. Honestly. It saddens me to see you being hurt unnecessarily week after week mona, it really does.
Thank you Echos for your honesty. As I reflect on it, I have had five therapists and had bad experiences with all of them. I am beginning to wonder if any of them are capable or competent. I am lucky in that I have had two really wonderful tutors who have shown me what good therapy is, through their consistency, care and support I have learned much about the process and the relationship. I also have a very kind and supportive supervisor who is showing me what a healthy relationship looks like.
I felt that t was excellent at first, she was warm, compassionate and interested but now she is only interested in challenging and provoking. I actually could not believe she asked me to do this favour, and especially after last nights session. I wonder has she gone completely mad, or is she wanting to get to know me outside of sessions. I know that this favour suits her and she will benefit, not me. I will do the favour because I told her I would and would not let anyone down after promising something.
During our session she was really mad, her face was all red and she looked like she could strangle me, she stormed up and I thought she was just going to walk out but she went to turn the light on but didn't say anything.
At the end of our session when she said I need to be more proactive she shouted at me so loudly that I moved my chair back, she realised she was shouting then and calmed down, two minutes later she asked this favour. I think I was in so much shock I just said yes.

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Originally Posted by junkDNA View Post
your relationship with your T reminds me of another posters- Indestructible Girl ( i think thats her name)

i know its so hard to let go when one is so strongly attached... no matter what the relationship is like or has evolved into. its so easy to say just leave! , but that could seem dam near impossible to the one stuck in it. so i will just give hugs
Thank you for the hugs junkDNA
I am familiar with this posters name but not her story. It is hard to leave when you are knee deep in quicksand.
It didn't used to be like this and I still hope someday it will go back to the way it was.


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Thanks for this!
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