When we first got together I was his new toy. Actually, he did some sexual things that were kinda creepy, but I wouldn't do it and that was something right from the beginning. I felt like he really wanted to do something I wouldn't do. He could've found someone else who would. But he didn't, we got married.

Then he became totally stressed out because of his job, angry, hostile, and took it out on me by being a downer and wasn't interested in sex. Actually, he really wanted me to just do everything for him, including initiating.

Then I criticized him (the prior poster reminded me) in bed. The way he was touching me, tickled me, and didn't feel good. I think it was after I gave birth. Maybe my body changed. I had problems because I had an episiotomy, but my overall feelings changed in response to him. That's where our real struggle kicked in.

I read every self help book. I discussed it with him. We went to a dozen therapists.

Oh what a long, hard road it's been.