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Originally Posted by TakeMeWithYou
healingme4me: I copied your list - thank you. I will look yours over as I review my own. As for my T in this assignment, she wants me to have clarity about what I want first and THEN the evaluation of my husband - as to his capacity as well as his willingness to work on those things where he may not have a well-developed skill set. My T doesn't want me deciding whether to leave just yet.........she has also advised me that I am the one who sets the boundaries about what I can live with. Thanks again for your thoughts!! Much appreciated
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I felt much better with my decision to divorce because I took the time to sort through things. Once it happened and he was no longer under the same roof, I slept a little better and within a couple of weeks I felt more relaxed and at peace.
Sorting through the needs list, that list was literally thinking about myself in the here and now, is a great way to recognize little points within the marriage that seriously lacked. Can even take the list further and address childhood, which typically is said to bring one to an unhealthy relationship in the first place. I mention unhealthy because if it was healthy divorce wouldn't be a focus point.