Actually what stopped the sex was 2 things. The first was the criticism, the second was it being the same thing every time and if I didnt initiate it then it didnt happen (and she would constantly complain about it). When I talked to her about it she said she didnt know what to do. I asked her to read the net articles on things she could do. No interest in that. I also told her what she could do. I also did a quick search on "how to seduce your man" and sent her articles, still nothing. I gave up.

Even today I could walk in and say spread your legs and she would let me in. However I dont have any interest in doing it with a corpse. I want her to WANT me not take pity on me or do it out of "duty". Men want to be "seduced" also. sex is the "finale" not the beginning :-( I get more "foreplay" and worked up from masturbation than I do this sham of a marriage ;-(

Anyway, that is just one symptom of the overall problem.