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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
When we first got together I was his new toy. Actually, he did some sexual things that were kinda creepy, but I wouldn't do it and that was something right from the beginning. I felt like he really wanted to do something I wouldn't do. He could've found someone else who would. But he didn't, we got married.
Then he became totally stressed out because of his job, angry, hostile, and took it out on me by being a downer and wasn't interested in sex. Actually, he really wanted me to just do everything for him, including initiating.
Then I criticized him (the prior poster reminded me) in bed. The way he was touching me, tickled me, and didn't feel good. I think it was after I gave birth. Maybe my body changed. I had problems because I had an episiotomy, but my overall feelings changed in response to him. That's where our real struggle kicked in.
I read every self help book. I discussed it with him. We went to a dozen therapists.
Oh what a long, hard road it's been.
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I guess my question is what do you consider "creepy"?? As for my personal feeling as long as it is just between you and him, there is little or nothing I can think of that a couple could do that is "creepy".
What I have seen and read about many times is after the birth of a child, the woman kicks in to the role of "mommy" and good mommys dont do things like **** sex or give oral sex or anything like that. The fact of the matter though is that "mommys" are women too. There is nothing wrong with sexual relations between a husband and wife. There is nothing wrong with a mother even having "dark desires". All it says is that she is still a woman with the needs of a woman.
Maybe to you this is creepy also but I would have given anything to have been able to suckle at the breast of my wife after she gave birth. I cant think of a more intimate bonding experience than that. It never happened though because "mommys" dont do that.