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Originally Posted by lovethesun
I have a former friend (now I'd just refer to her as an aquaintance) who I still see on a regular basis. I believe this person has major self esteem and jealousy issues. I had a pretty big falling out with this person where neither one of us gave any ground. For every veiled insult she threw at me, I threw one back and I never apologized to her. We agreed to disagree and did not speak for 8 months. We've since started waving to each other when we see each other and are cordial when we speak even complimenting each other once in a while. On the surface it would appear that the hatchet has been buried, but I just can't shake the feeling that if I fell off a bridge or my house burned down, she'd have a smile on her face as wide as a football field and her cheers would be heard all the way in China. It's stressful because I feel like I have to be extra perfect and careful about things around her so I don't give her any mishap to cheer about. No matter how much I try to just be positive and forget the past, I can't get past the intense negative energy that still lingers around this person.
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I have someone I work with who is like that. She and I were pretty good friends (well, work friends, but in my line of work those are good friends indeed) but had a major falling out on the job. She kind of lost her shyt with me. I was at fault as well, but while I asked her to come speak to me in private, she screamed at me in the hallway, in front of patient rooms. It was embarrassing and unprofessional. Now, we are cordial to one another, and even have small conversations with one another. We'll able to get along professionally, but it's tense, and I definitely feel a wall up with her that I know will always be there. It's unfortunate, but sometimes it's just the way it is and you can never get rid of that negative energy. Being cordial is probably the best you can hope for at this time.