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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
The first thing I thought was creepy was this (I'm putting it in a trigger box 'cause it's embarrassing to me)
Then after we got married he only kept after me to have a**l. I gave it the 'ol college try, but it is not for me. And I felt that he was so disappointed and I wondered if he was secretly gay for wanting that so badly. Plus it made me feel self conscious that again he didn't think I was right for him- like was I not tight enough?
I have no problems with seducing him. I know what he likes and I like to do it.
Does your wife have orgasms from sex- intercourse, foreplay? Could that be why she withdrew? |
Well, I can only speak for me but I dont think either of those are worth getting too upset about. On the "trigger item" he probably should not have "surprised you with that" but instead talked first. Some guys like it clean, some might like it for "youthful fantasy" (maybe never really saw what it was like uncovered). Either way in my honest opinion I think maybe you are (were) being overly sensitive about it and he was being underly sensitive about it.
As for ****, it is not something you should take personally. At least you tried and it is certainly not something for everyone and a man has to be VERY gentle and understanding. As for it being a "gay thing", i can only speak for myself when I say it has nothing to do with "gayness". To be honest, I feel like with that I have had my woman fully and completely. If she was not a virgin it also has the feeling like she is giving me something that no other man has had. I find that "special".
Actually, I put her orgasm before mine. I have no problem and in fact encourage her to rub herself while Im inside if she cannot have an orgasm from intercourse. I even bought her some vibrators. One of my problems though was when she used them every time for orgams. that got to be insulting.
Anybody please feel free to tell me if this is getting too "graphic".