I had a really similar with my T about a month ago. When I told her it felt like she was blaming me, she explained that general protocol with recent potential trauma to "encourage a sense of control and empowerment in the client." She was/is attempting to give me a feeling of being in control by pointing out what I could have done differently. I agree, it feels invalidating and feeds into the shame and self-blame both you and I (and probably many people who experience sexual assault) are already feeling. It may be that your T is just following her training, and it doesn't have anything to do with her personal values or opinions of you/your actions. I'm sorry your T isn't feeling supportive right now. It is NOT your fault. In case part of you doesn't believe me, I'll say it again. What happened was not. Your. Fault. Take care dear one!