I just want to say thank you for your words. I really need them right now. No one but my T knows what happened to me (well, people who were around when it happened do but haven't spoken about it since) and she has never told me it wasn't my fault. So I guess I've never heard anyone say that. Thank you. Almost cried. If anything that is more empowering than trying to sift through what I might have done to "enable" it. Also it is very helpful to know it may be general protocol.