Interesting to read. My parents were so dysfunctional I had no example of what a good emotional marriage relationship was like & my mom kept telling me growing up that my dad loved me. So i had no idea what any kind of emotional connection was like.

Then I married a guy who I thought would be nothing like my dad & ended up being exactly like him. My own marriage was so dysfunctional with such negative feelings for my husband I never had a desire to be with him..like he turned me off.

It wasn't until after I finally left & got really GOOD therapy & started researching the problems with my marriage after getting a suggestion of a possibility from a T I initially went to that I figured out what the issues had been with my H & then I realized my dad had the SAME problems & cause hor his behaviors. Very enlightening but realized there was just no way to connect or even communicate normally with them. It's interesting what other T 's like the writer of this think is normal or at least closer to normal than I could ever have experienced.