my best solution is to focus on the 'solution' rather than the 'problem',,
i never know when i will run into some situation that goads me... but i do know what to do about it: disengage IMMEDIATELY.

there are other skills,, mindful breathing, counting, reading; "distract, defer, delay", are my mantras.

as i practice my skillful responses more and more, they are becoming quicker and more effective. acceptance and not resistance seems to be a key component: i am like this, they are like that, here's what to do ~

best wishes~!