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Originally Posted by Shadix
It is the way we are socialized. A man who is too affectionate or emotional is labeled as a weirdo. Women are also socialized to be less affectionate towards men. Being an adult male is basically akin to being a slave. Men need to start defying their age and gender role, otherwise life is going to continue to suck for us.
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"Women are also socialized to be less affectionate towards men..." In what culture? Because I was not socialized this way. Even with an emotionally withholding mother who hated men (because of her own traumas, dysfunctions, and what-have-you), I was heavily socialized by my foster family and the rest of society to be submissive, pleasing, and affectionate, because, society told me, this is what men want in a woman. Note that I'm not blaming this on men, I'm blaming this on those who were around me most, speaking into my life. And those people were predominately other women.
Fwiw, saying men have no emotions and male bashing in general is not a feminist thing. Feminists want to be seen as equal members of society, not less-than. Why would a true feminist bash the very people to whom we feel equal? It just isn't logically sound. Lots of women can call themselves feminists, and behave in all sorts of appalling ways. But the word actually has a specific meaning which isn't all that appalling or radical when you really get down to it.