I'm not sure if I want to make a separate thread about this, but has anyone felt like their problems aren't "good enough" to be in therapy, or even that whatever happened or didn't happen in childhood isn't a "good enough" reason to feel the way you do currently?

Ok, i will explain a bit more. I am diagnosed with chronic depression...been going on for about 13ish years (though I think maybe my T thinks I have been depressed longer than that...i am not sure about that), and have dipped down lower...and come back up to baseline for me, which is basically like living in a world of grey.

But...i have felt like this for so long, that it doesn't necessarily "bother" me...it feels normal, you know?

Sooooo...anyway, my T has recently brought up that my extreme prematurity (born at 24 weeks) was a major trauma and really effected my attachment process--i spent four months in the hospital, i don't think i was even allowed to be held until about a month after I was born. She said that because my attachment process was interrupted, I have a very deep sense that I can't trust anyone to really be there for me, and has affected my relationships. I do agree that I am very avoidant-fearful, and haven't even TRIED dating anyone in 13 years.

This is also complicated by my confusion on sexuality...which i do keep avoiding talking about.

ANYWAY, the point i am getting at, is it makes me VERY angry to think that all of my current issues are due to being stuck in the NICU for a few months after I was born? That feels completely lame. I know my T isn't judging me because I haven't been abused or had any tragic losses--I should be (and am, mostly) grateful i didn't experience those things! I think part of it might be that I can't connect to this infant who had a intense few months still cooking in the NICU. Obviously, I don't remember it.

Well..i've wandered off tangent.