I think both. I have a lot of father hunger, as per my story in the first post in this thread...my dad almost never contacted me growing up. I have a lot of anger over that and it really bubbles to the surface when I receive short, dismissive emails from T, or none at all. I feel like he is blowing me off, I feel abandoned, uncared for etc. This is transference. But it also lends to me feeling very attached to him. I cannot miss a week of seeing him. It makes me upset. I also feel some ET for him which makes me uncomfortable and I'd be happy if that part goes away. Yesterday morning I woke up having dreamed of T on top of me. he does dream interpretation and I certainly will *not* be sharing that one.